Help for Laid Off Employees

As the unemployment situation grows...and I believe it will continue to get worse before it gets better, each of us is likely to have a relative, close friend or neighbor who experiences the trauma of losing their job at this time when jobs are so hard to find.

We face to two choices with these friends...we can turn the other way and make like we don't see their misfortune, or we can extend a helping hand.

Ron Leiber recently wrote a terrific column in the New York Times on this subject: Layoff's Duty to The Less Fortunate. Beyond Ron's thoughtful list of tips, he has posted a a fine list of recommendations from Amy Baker that originated from a time when she was laid off.

Because I am so grateful for my very active consulting business and compassionate about those losing their job for no reason of their own doing, I have chosen to extend the helping hand, rather than just turn away and ignore the problem.

My personal focus with people in this situation is to inquire about the support network they have in place.

Ultimately, getting re-employed is more than a one person task in these trying times.

It is critical that a person quickly put in place the right support team and make good use of such a team. The role of the right team is to provide both emotional support and substantive assistance.

Amy Baker's list is so good that I will now also use her wonderful list in my efforts to help friends in this situation.

Here is the wonderful thing about helping people who have been laid off. Not only will you be helping your friends, but you will also experience a sense of gratitude that will help you in many dimensions of your own life.

Prospering in tough times is about more than just hoarding the largest pile of money in these tough times!

False Evidence Appearing Real - FEAR is All Around Us

I am sure that you have noticed that fear surrounds us. Not since 9/11 have I seen so much fear among the general population. Fear of losing a job. Fear of not being able to find a job. Fear of having wages or benefits reduced. Fear of having a medical emergency and being without health care insurance. Fear of having to work way past 65 in a work place that often exhibits unsaid age bias. Fear of losing your home. Fear of losing more of your retirement funds. Etc. Etc.

In connection with my work with peak performers, I have been studying the emotion of "fear" for many years. As you know, fear can trigger physiological defensive reactions that are quite helpful...they even could be life saving. But, fear also can be debilitating. What I am seeing a lot of is people whose fear is debilitating...people who could improve their productivity and quality of life if they could manage fear better.

What fears do you currently have that are being counterproductive to your prospering in these tough times?

My most powerful lessons in managing fear came through my six Outward Bound wilderness experiences (the lessons from which were described in a series that starts here). Each of these 10-12 day experiences contained elements that forced me to deal with a variety of fears (heights, cold, heat, whitewater, etc.). From these experiences, I learned about the power of looking at fear through the prism of the acronym F.E.A.R., False Evidence Appearing Real . I have learned to challenge feelings of fear with the test of "is this just False Evidence Appearing Real?"

Well, I know most readers of this blog are not about to go off on an Outward Bound experience to learn how to better manage their fears. A quicker and less expensive way to learn more about managing fears is a wonderful book by Joseph Bailey, Fearproof Your Life, How to Thrive in a World Addicted to Fear.

Bailey does an excellent job of explaining fear and of laying out specific ways to break away from the tyranny of living in continual fear.

These really are tough times for so many Americans. But, they need not be times that you fear. Manage your fear and you will be taking an important first step in embracing the recession, the subject of a four part series that starts here.

Hole in Sidewalk Story

Many coaches and some of the addiction recovery programs like to use a short powerful poem that is a wonderful metaphor for how to live life...especially in these tough times. Recently one of my coaches, the very talented Jennifer Sabin, reminded me of this powerful poem by the late Portia Nelson. The following poem is from Nelson's book There is a Hole in My Sidewalk:

''Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

I. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I fall in. I am lost. . .I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

II. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

III. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I fall in . . . it's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

IV. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

V. I walk down another street."

Portia was a multi-talented artist and real Renaissance woman who upon her death the NY Times called "one of the most beloved New York night club performers of the 1950's." She was also a songwriter, painter, actress, and author.

In today's environment, holes abound. The question is do you keep falling in the same hole? Or, the same type of hole?

Or....are you taking graduate level courses in tough times, learning from your experiences, and appropriately shifting your direction?

The Snowball is Rolling Faster

It has been five months since I wrote about the snowball lesson.

Here we are almost two months into a new administration and the snowball is still gathering speed. The economy just keeps getting worse. Regretfully, we do not appear to be close to yet hitting bottom. The reasons I cited five months ago in my series as to why I expected this downturn to be severe and long lasting become ever more apparent. Yuk! Yuk! Yuk!

Those looking to Washington for a solution could be in for a long wait. Our President's financial team is doing little to inspire much confidence. Every day, I become more concerned that Treasury Secretary Geithner has been unable to get his senior team in place. Adding to that disability, the press reports that National Economic Council Chairman Larry Summers learned little about controlling his immense ego from his relatively short tenure as Harvard President (I am not in Washington so I can't know for sure if the press reports are correct, but anyone who would let himself be proposed as the Economic "Czar," as Summers did, certainly is suspect for having a major ego problem). And, reportedly Paul Volcker is not really being listened to. Already some pundits are referring to the liklihood that the gang will beome known as "the gang that couldn't shoot straight."

Let me be clear. Solving this world wide economic problem is beyond the capabilities of any one person. Teamwork is needed every bit as much as raw intellect. And, we all know that teamwork is not something for which Washington is known.

So, does that mean I expect the end of the world is near? Hardly!

I continue to believe that each and every one of us has the capability to chart a personal plan for prosperity. The best course of action is the one that I learned from Outward Bound many years ago, self rescue.

From time to time, I report the bad news on this blog so that readers will get the message of how important it is for individuals to promptly take the right actions. If one thinks that a turnaround in the economy is imminent, one can be lulled into inaction.

The vast, vast majority of my posts are positive stories of individuals who are leading the way through their actions. The recently concluded series on people who "get it" is a composite of men and woman, from a variety of vocations, who are taking actions to help themselves and to help others to prosper. And, my earlier series on Lessons from the Masters likewise shared tips from some very capable thought leaders.

I am a huge believer in the strength of the human spirit.

I believe we are in the early stages of the latest reinvention of our economy here in the United States. Those individuals and companies that embrace this reinvention will prosper.

Those that fight this reinvention are likely to suffer long and hard.

The choice is yours. I choose to embrace the reinvention. I hope you will do likewise.